Your Value is Determined by YOU

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Did you know that you set the tone for how people treat you?

Are you having a problem with wanting to be taken seriously but aren’t?

I want to help show you that you are the reason, and you can fix that!

John C. Maxwell said it best,

“I often ask myself what keeps people from being successful. I believe that all people have seeds of success within them. All they need to do is cultivate those seeds, water they and they will grow.”

Each and every single one of us has the knowledge we need to be who we want.

In John C. Maxwell’s book, The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth, he talks about the 3rd Law: The Law of the Mirror.

When we look in the mirror and we don’t see value in our self, others won’t see value in us either.
I like to say, we teach people how to treat us.

This is huge in family relationships, work environments and even strangers on the street.

Our family is the first place where we learn how to put this law into action.

We have to realize that how we treat ourselves is the same way others are going to act toward us.
If we allow others to take advantage of us, they will.

Setting boundaries is crucial and you can only do this with a high level of self-respect and self-esteem.

We all know about “The People of Walmart.”

They walk in wearing their pj’s, and slippers… without consciously realizing it, we do not treat someone dressed this way, the same way as we would around a person who showed up nicely dressed, clean and walking with confidence.

We would move and act differently around each individual.

(even if we say “everyone is equal”)

It’s not always in a judgemental way, but they have set the tone (even unconsciously) how they want others to treat them.

(YES!! it IS your fault!!)

The feeling you have about yourself is going to teach people how to treat you.

Unfortunately, people are going to judge you on you appearance, it’s not how it should be but they do.

(you know you do it too!)

You must embody a level of respect in your spirit, your BEING.

The power of a positive self-esteem adds value in you.

If we think we aren’t worth having what we want, we won’t get it.

I have put together a really short list of things you can do to help you create a more confident POSTURE and change the way people treat you.

  1. Guard Yourself Talk– Everything you say inside, even if they don’t hear it.. they can see it all over your face. Your body also “hears” your self-talk and it will manifest in your weight, your health and how you move. (you can download my affirmations to help that here)
  2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others- You have your own journey, your own strength, and your own struggles on your path.
  3. Move Beyond Your Limiting Beliefs- When a man has put a limit on what he will do, he has put a limit on what he can do. – Charles Schwab
  4. Add Value to Others- I believe significance comes when you add value to others—and you can’t have true success without significance. – John C. Maxwell
  5. Do the Right thing even if it’s the hard thing- I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence. – Frederick Douglas

You are 100% responsible for yourself and how you show up in this world, so go inward to go upward!!

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